Abuse…, What’s the first thing that comes in your mind when you hear the word? An image of a kid being sexually abused or physically tortured? A husband hitting his wife violently which leaves her with some broken ribs and bruises everywhere? Yes, those are abuses and a crime against humanity, in my personal opinion. What I would like to highlight, to you, is about a common abuse that may not have crossed your mind…the abuse on the elderly.
Nothing will ever prepare you when the time comes to caring for your parents. I used to think that it wouldn’t be so hard.
Boy! Was I so wrong!
It takes a toll on you from many different aspects : financially, emotionally, physically and mentally. Your parents will turn into “children” that you need to parent and this I speak from my own experience.
If you would like to read my personal story, please click this link My story : The unintended journey
A word that changed my life forever and threw me into a role that I was totally unprepared for – being a caregiver.
A brief history about myself. I am an only child. My father was a pharmacist and my mother, a nurse. Our life as a family was pretty simple and happy. We did things like other families did : going to church, weekend outings and what not. I did well in school and graduated as a chemical engineer. However, after a short stint as an engineer, I didn’t like the job. It wasn’t the right fit for me. I changed my path into the pharmaceutical industry and worked my way up to middle management. Finances was good and I decided to further on my studies while working. I took up MBA so that it would give me the extra edge to move on up the corporate ladder. Being single, I had the advantage of not having much to worry about.I had a certain lavish lifestyle which I enjoyed. My path was clear and I never once thought about the health of my parents.Why should I? In my mind, they would always be there and enjoy my successes. They won’t fall terribly sick. They will live until they are a 100 years old. Naive thinking, indeed.
Have you ever noticed that the older you are, the more aches and pains you get? Things that used to be easy to do aren’t so now? More so for your elderly folks, for some even walking to the front porch is a task on its own. Do they really need exercise in their daily routine?
The answer is a resounding YES! Just because you have reached the golden age, that does not mean that exercise takes a back seat in your life. All the more why it should be priority #1 in your daily life. After all, age is ONLY a number, you are never too old to start exercising. The only hurdle is your mind. We are so conditioned to think that when you reach the 70s and 80s, all you should be doing is spending the days sitting in a rocking chair and reading the papers. Let me tell you that this is a MYTH! It is time for a paradigm shift.
Your parent is in the hospital and will be returning home soon. You have taken the decision to be the caregiver. But, you are absolutely clueless about being a caregiver and do not know what to prepare for your parent’s arrival from the hospital. This is a familiar scenario, isn’t it?
Through the following steps, I will guide you with the necessary preparations to be taken in your home for your loved one and on tips in being their caregiver.